When bad things happened, my tendency was to live in the past or think of a time when life would be different. Have you heard yourself say, “If I had only— If I had gone to college, taken a different job. If I had spent my money more wisely. If I had said no to the kids more. If I had worked less. If, if, if—” On the other hand, maybe you are the opposite, the one who constantly looks…..